If you find yourself a tad nervous about signing up for an app that allows you to explore your kinks and your fetishes, remember you only have to go as far as you feel comfortable. Depending on your level of curiosity, you can explore what turns you on by talking about it online or in person, with others who share your same sentiment. Why focus your attention on hookup-specific apps?
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Here, a comprehensive, no-BS guide to ensuring your stress is low and your spirits high:. FriendFinder-X is a hookup site that boasts millions of users around the world. No doubt about it, FF-X is focused on sex, boasting to users about its ability to get them "casual encounters" and "secret affairs" as well as featuring a live chat feature if you're just looking to sext, not meet up.
Considering the focus on sex and not dating, you can be sure fellow members are also there more for casual hookups than for the type of thing where you meet each other's parents and so forth. Another great option if you're simply looking for a hookup partner is XMatch. If you're looking for someone with a specific kink or turn-on AdultFriendFinder is a great option.
Allowing users to broadcast their sexual preferences, it's easy to search for and be found by the right people on AFF, which loops in dating site all across the Friend Finder network -- meaning you've got millions of potential hookups to discover. Keep in mind that this list is just hookup sites -- for guys who want to hook up and not settle down.
How on earth do I ask for this on an app like Tinder without getting scary messages? This is a great start! I have long believed that the secret to finding a lasting partnership is less about meeting the one but rather about meeting some one who you find attractive and interesting but who also — and this is crucial — wants the same kind of relationship that you do at the same time that you want it.
This can apply to casual relationships as much as serious ones: Being real friends-with-benefits requires the highest level of emotional honesty and communication in order to make the parameters of the relationship clear and avoid hurt feelings.
Your point that advertising this on your profile may elicit creepy messages is not an irrelevant one, but I do think for maximum efficiency you should be pretty clear that you are looking for something casual because of your existing commitments.
And you do want someone who is very sex-positive. One option is to look for people with similar profiles to yours: If your tastes run to the kinky, you could also consider investigating in apps and sites that are more open about their focus on sex, such as Fetlife.
Once you do decide to meet people, remember to take the same precautions that you would if you were dating for more romantic reasons: