I was hoping for something more like casual sex hook ups rather than just hookers but thanks anyway. You don't want to socialise, talk to or otherwise treat with the women you have sex with like valued people.
Women generally don't need to use the internet to meet someone to have sex with. They can either have sex with someone they know or go to a bar, so they can know what they're getting beforehand. So do women you already know want to have sex with you?
If not, are you capable of meeting some women in the real world who might want to have sex with you? If not, you're out of luck. Are you incredibly good looking and captivating or something to justify being so picky? How the hell do you expect women to want to sleep with you if you can't provide anything to make it worthwhile for them?
Well you're shit outta luck there, mate - although I hear that there's some sex clubs for singles out there but they're hard to get into If I recall correctly there was one which required a special way of ordering something from Veggie Bar on Brunswick St which has been mentioned in this sub a few times.
This is the thing that made get a reddit account just so I could ask. My mate told me about it and I thought he was full of shit. The best coinidence just happened - just got asked where veggie bar is while waiting for a tram I'm 38, fat, ugly, unfit and poor.
I'd like to not make any effort whatseover and have hot girls come over to my place and have sex with me. Then they can leave. In fact, I don't even really want to even get out of my chair to open the door. It disturbs all the Doritos and Smiths packets I have neatly arrayed around me. Also, I don't want to pay any money for anything.
Welcome to Reddit, the front page of the internet. Become a Redditor and subscribe to one of thousands of communities. I've looked at r4r Melbourne but it's pretty dead in there. Want to add to the discussion? Although that crab isn't smashed enough. I didn't know you were referring to his username until after I read that comment ahaha.
Put some fucking effort in. You don't know women who don't want to have sex with you It's too expensive to meet women It takes too much time to meet women You hate clubs You don't want to socialise, talk to or otherwise treat with the women you have sex with like valued people Welcome to the world, where people have to want to have sex with you for you to have sex.
She messaged me out of the blue two months later saying "oh sorry: She saw me as a fallback option so I just left it. One that sticks out in my mind is a girl I met in November. We met up in Thornbury at her work, walked through Northcote, got a coffee and hung out at mine for the afternoon. We hung out a couple more times, Netflix and chill, had dinner at hers, met her parents and it wasn't long before I started to grow feelings for her looking back I think she's the only girl I've had feelings for.
I made plans to take her out on a date one night to Bistrot D'orsay. She agreed and everything was all good. Fast forward to the day- It's 5: I get a message on my phone from her saying "call me". So I call her.. This isn't a date is it? I have a boyfriend.. How long have you had a boyfriend for? I didn't want to hurt you but I still want to go out tonight".
Made me feel like an idiot. Haven't been on Tinder since late last year and I don't really have any interest in it. Sucks because realistically it's my only outlet for meeting people because I'm either working alone at work or don't get into cliques.
If this is the level of communication they had going then I can see why the poor girl was confused as to whether it was an actual date or not. Girls don't put out so early though? Wasn't the rule of thumb to do it by the third date? I must be old fashioned. Sex is not a prize to be won but you appear to have been sending that girl very mixed messages. Especially if you specifically invited her back to yours for "netflix and chill" then made no moves and just watched the lion king all night.
Did you at l ask make out? Otherwise I can see why she thinks you weren't dating. You should still hang with her, perhaps she has some friends you can meet. Tinder in Melbourne is where photogenic women cheat on their partners and get free midweek dinners. It typically goes drinks and chats for the first date, so I've done milkshakes and chats, coffee and chats, alcoholic beverages and chats, and I've even just had water and chats. But also, parks are really nice and casual and public.
I met my girlfriend on Tinder, started off as just friends with benefits then basically decided to become more then fell for one another. Been with her a year and three months, and things are going great! One was uneventful, the other was not.
We hit it off, she was sweet and funny, I really liked her boobs. I didn't think we could have sex right then, but we ended up getting really horny and fucking in a classroom in Melbourne University wasn't in use at the time, but classes were going on in other rooms. Really fun, one of the best experiences ever. I am usually happy to talk for a few days and then try to set something up, you can tell pretty quick who you might get along with and who is just wasting your time.
I don't think there is as much of a one-night stand culture in Australia using Tinder compared to the US, at least in my experience and that of my friends. The first one I ended up getting along really well with and chatted for a long time over the course of a few days and then decided to meetup in the city.
This was probably the only tinder 'date' I've had. Prior to this I stalked her ask. So basically we met up and had a coffee and walk around the city and we did get along well but I could really feel much energy from her and she was abit socially awkward too. After meeting up with her, I did chat here and there on Facebook but eventually it didnt seem to heading anywhere so I stop chatting and she eventually deleted me off Facebook.
Second meet-up was quite spontaneous and on an impulse. I got talking to this one girl and got a bit of humor flowing in the conversation. I decided to go for it and ask if she wanted to meet up tonight and she agreed and we ended up meeting up in this shady park near the airport in my old city. We just really hung out and chatted for about 2 and abit hours around the park and on the playground and half the time I couldn't really see what she looked like.
The conversation flowed well and didnt seem to fall into awkward silences at all. Half the time I was on the look out for dodginess and bit creep'd from all the shady groups of people walking through the park who were doing God knows what there. Third meet up was quite spontaneous too. I went over to her friends place to pick her up and we just really drove around boundlessly for about nearly two hours before things got awkward and she discreetly messaged her friends to pick her up.
The conversation went alright but she was abit stand-offish and often took my humor and other things the wrong way, etc but it was a fun slightly way of helping a boring afternoon. I've been reluctant to use Tinder as much of recent months since that last meeting due to the limited swiping, my shitty matches and probably my own experiences subconsciously, but it would be nice to meet new people whenever. Made a second date as well. It was alright we saw Daddy's Home it was pretty funny.
Again we made plans for a third date and then when I messaged her asking if she wanted to meet up, she said 'yes' then a day later she stopped talking to me via both tinder and Facebook. Maybe I should have made more of a move or she wanted to netflix and chill with me but I didn't get the hint who the hell knows. I didn't want to suggest it on the second time I had met her because I thought it would be fucking creepy.
That was my only time I went on a date. I have since met an awesome girl at uni so I kinda stopped chatting to other girls on tinder and concentrated on her. You're all the same age, with the same goals finishing Uni, get a jerb, etc. Plus there is all these social clubs and Facebook pages etc. I came to Melbourne in first year uni not knowing anybody else my age and I was still am reluctant to go to events because I don't really have anybody to go with really I guess so haha.
I feel like having a buddy or two tagging along would make it seem less awkward and creepy meeting people at events but idk, I am slightly reluctant But if you definitely know from personal experiences that going alone makes it easier to meet new people then I might consider it I met one of my best friends in the free food line on first week of Uni. Just started some casual chit chat like "The only thing keeping me at this Uni is the free food".
We don't have much in common either. She likes to go out clubbing and stuff whilst I prefer a low-key night at home smashing some PS4 after work. Mostly she'll call me at 2am on the way home from one of her big nights out and ask if I want Maccas.
She brings me an ice cream and we literally talk shit for the rest of the night whilst she watches me play Fallout. Total opposites but it works well haha. I also started a Trance Music Club at Uni. It started as Facebook page that turned into a family. We'd post links to music and meet up at trance events, catch up at Uni for coffees etc.
I would not have known any of these people if I didn't first take the initiative to create a club in the first place. There's people out there just like you, who knew? I also met my boyfriend at the time through the Uni Car Club. We had some late night pancake parlour carpark meetup and everyone pretty much came alone and introduced themselves. Added each other to Facebook after that. I don't regret going alone that day. You'd never see me so happy after that.
Point of the story, you can make friends so easily through Uni. Even if you join a study group before exams, everyone is there doing the same thing. Now get out there or I'm going to find you and become your older, mature-age wingwoman who makes you socialise with people. I like trance too, can you link me the page? It's probably not my uni but would be cool to join. Go get drunk say hi to girls, you'd be surprised how many will actually talk to you.
I met my girlfriend by just being slightly drunk and friendly at a pub crawl. Apparently she thought I was cute: My friends never went to uni parties with me. I managed to be friend the guys and girls who organised them so I was normally handed a bunch of drink cards when we had parties at clubs.
I always went alone until my friends realised I always had such a good night there whether they came with me or not. Just get out on the dance floor and then start dancing with a girl. Then the next day message her on Facebook saying "it was nice meeting you last night" lead the conversation onto meeting up for a coffee and see how it goes. I'm 21 this is my first real girlfriend. The amount of times I did the above is uncountable. If she starts kissing you, go with it. It doesn't mean you need to go home together either you can still get coffee in a few days and laugh at how drunk you both were.
A lot of matches, but not many progressed after that. I'd say out of , I would get about 10 numbers. Would not get any further, which is cool. Still talk to some of them though, the girls that I've spoken to are pretty cool. Haha, well they're kinda the type of girls I go for - cute, quiet, shy etc. Really easy to get along with. Age range though is between 20 and That age surprises me somewhat.
I would've assumed it would've been the other way around since girls generally favour older guys, especially on a place like Tinder. Mexican dinner none of that Taco Bill crap , followed by either E55 or The Mill House depending on our moods for drinks, and back to whoever's apartment is closer.
Seems like people a tad older than me I'm 19 take Tinder meet-ups abit more seriously than people my age. I wouldn't say I or many of the people I've met off of Tinder take the app seriously. Our choice of activities may have to do with people a bit older having a more stable income than the average late-teen and thus foregoing Maccas for something a bit nicer.
I'm from Singapore and visited Melbourne for 10 days. My colleague who came travelling with me suggested that we both use tinder to meet and befriend locals and we did.
I got plenty of matches within days and people were friendly and chatty, some even told us their favourite hangouts and things like that which was awesome. First dude was 1. He matched with me, so my colleague decided to leave early. But as soon as she left he put the moves on me. He wasn't really aware that I was uncomfortable I was just super awkward, I didn't know what to say, I didn't want to make it unpleasant, I just wanted to go home, as soon as he stopped trying to French me!!
I thought it was clear we're just travelers who just want to make friends with locals! I finished my drink, got an uber and went home..